The tradition of tithing

Money, money, money. It’s everywhere we look and frequently on our mind. Whether we’re investing in a costly flat white to start the day or saving up to one day to buy a house (sorry fellow millennials), it’s hard to get away from thinking about money.

It’s a huge part of everyday life and perhaps this is why Jesus spoke so much about it. 1 Timothy 6 tells us that to hope in money itself is to live an uncertain life. Money comes and it goes and an unhealthy relationship with it will lead to all sorts of anxiety and fear. Paul is of course echoing Jesus himself in Matthew 6 who tells us not to be anxious about tomorrow (the preceding verses make it clear he is referring to our material and financial needs).

This misplaced hope in money can easily affect both the rich and the poor. Generally speaking, the trap of the rich is to fear losing their riches and the trap of the poor is to desire riches too greatly but we can just as easily succumb to both at the same time.

There’s much we could say about money itself but in this moment I want to focus on a topic that is given much emphasis by the church, the tradition of tithing.

I must warn the reader that this is a controversial and challenging topic. And unfortunately any challenge to the status quo can be seen as an attack on the church, abandoning scripture or even more intensely, an issue around the Lordship of Christ.

But we must see that this is in some sense circular reasoning that seeks to self-protect, much like topics we covered before such as honour culture.

For example, if we are taught that criticism of a leader (whether significant disagreement or simply questioning) is a sign of dishonour and therefore sinful, we then shut down all alternative perspectives, creating a silo of ideas.

Outside of the church, this sort of circular reasoning is similarly applied in all sorts of dangerous ideologies.

So if we truly seek to understand whether an idea is biblical; if there is no room to question it without accusation of sin or exclusion of the offending party then there is little hope of arriving at the truth. This is how cultures become unhealthy echo chambers instead of life-giving communities.

I believe this same way of thinking is frequently applied to the tithe. Anyone who dares to challenge it is seen as theologically unsound or worse, a bad actor. But doesn’t this rather depend on what the Bible actually says about it?

Tradition vs commandment

  • “Tithing is biblical”
  • “The Bible says we should tithe”

Statements such as these imply that tithing is a divine commandment from God and many of us have been taught as such. But as we read on, I seek to persuade you that whilst tithing is generally a good thing, it is merely a tradition.

The line between tradition and commandment was one of the frequent topics of conversation between Jesus and the Pharisees.

You may be familiar with Mark 7 where the Pharisees criticise the disciples of Jesus for not adhering to the correct handwashing ritual. Note that this is not about general cleanliness but an unnecessary addition to the law that has become legalistic.

His response is fairly cutting in verses 6-7:

And he said to them, “Well did Isaiah prophesy of you hypocrites, as it is written,

“‘This people honors me with their lips,
but their heart is far from me;
in vain do they worship me,
teaching as doctrines the commandments of men.’

Now traditions are not necessarily bad. In fact, we will always find gaps in the simplest reading of scripture and need wisdom and understanding to complete truth.

Consider the following modern questions:

  • What age is appropriate to give a child a smartphone?
  • Is vaping ok? What about cigars?
  • How many carbon emissions should one person emit per year?

And so on… The Bible cannot answer these questions directly because no one was aware of such questions until recent history but we naturally understood that there is wisdom we can apply from the teachings of the Bible with the help of the Holy Spirit.

So tradition and extra biblical teaching is often helpful. The problem is when we teach them as commandments instead of acknowledging personal interpretation or opinion.

I would like to submit to you in the rest of the article the following two claims:

  1. Tithing to a local church is not a mandatory commandment for New Testament believers but a rich tradition that points to a deeper life-giving principle.
  2. A change of emphasis from tithing to giving will make local churches healthier in culture and in finance.

These are changes we have implemented personally in how we speak about money in our own local church over the last couple of years and we have seen the fruit of it.

What is the tithe?

The word tithe literally means tenth. At various points prior to the Law being given to Moses (the Old Covenant), we see certain figures bringing a tenth (a tithe) to God. And the Law clearly commands the people of Israel to bring various tithes.

That last point is worthy of mention. Old Testament tithing was never limited to one single ten percent offering. There were actual multiple tithes. This is a fact I have rarely heard shared in church. Below is a breakdown of the different types of tithe explained in the Law.

  1. General tithe. A tenth of all produce and livestock was given to the Levites. This is normally where preaching on the tithe majors.
  2. Festival tithe. A tenth was set aside for annual festivals that God had commanded the people to go to. You could think of this like a sort of enforced church camp saving fund.
  3. Poor tithe. Every three years a tithe was stored for the needy in society.

A breakdown of the various tithes should usher in a question for the curious. If the tithe continues today, why do we only talk about one tithe as opposed to all three? Or perhaps we should approximate and move from 10% to 23.33%?

The answer is of course (unless you’re a three-tithe literalist) that we have moved from divine commandment to human interpretation. And this isn’t a bad thing. We recognise that within this part of the Law, there is an important principle that week to draw into the modern day. This principle is around putting God first.

It’s important that we must acknowledge the role of interpretation here in the way that we teach about this topic.

Tithing before the Law

Let’s take a look before the Law and see what references to tithing we have.

There are two main references to tithing worth exploring:

Abraham brings a tithe to Melchizedek (Genesis 14:18-20). Abraham gives ten percent of the spoils of war to Melchizedek (Hebrews connects this figure to Jesus himself). But note that this is a single event. There is nothing in the scripture that tells us that Abraham tithed on a regular basis. We see other examples of Abraham building altars but anything else is misreading the text.

Jacob pledges a tithe to God (Genesis 28:20-22). Interestingly enough in this scripture, Jacob makes a conditional promise to God that if he protects him, he will give him a tenth of everything in his future.

What’s notable for both of these examples is that there is no instruction from God to give a tenth. These are both voluntary offerings. Abraham’s tithe is a single offering and Jacob’s is a conditional pledge to fulfill in the future.

Giving to God is a good thing. But is giving ten percent to God part of obeying his commandments? Not without a good old stretch.

Perhaps the first signpost to the tithe

One other example worth noting is with Cain and Abel in Genesis 4. Both bring offerings to God but only Abel’s is accepted. The only difference we can see (outside of God having a preference for lamb shanks over carrots) is that Abel brings the first and best of his produce.

Here we see a reference to putting God first. But honestly no clear reference to tithing. As we look throughout the scripture, we continue to see references to God being first.

Matthew 6:33 (ESV):
“But seek first the kingdom of God and his righteousness, and all these things will be added to you.”

Proverbs 3:9-10 (ESV):
“Honor the Lord with your wealth and with the firstfruits of all your produce; then your barns will be filled with plenty, and your vats will be bursting with wine.”

There are plenty more that echo this theme but clearly the emphasis is on putting God first. For some reason we interpret this as giving a tenth but we’ve not yet found any scriptural mandate for it.

(Note: if you’re looking to get more Christian insights on money from the perspective of a creative business owner then you should consider checking out The Garden).

What Jesus says about the tithe

Jesus mentions the tithe just twice.

Criticising the Pharisees lack of justice (Matthew 23:23). In this passage, Jesus criticises the Pharisees because of their legalism. He says that they tithe things like mint and dill but neglect the weightier matters.

This is a clear endorsement of tithing (although secondary to the point Jesus makes) but don’t forget that Jesus is speaking to a Jewish audience who are under the Law. There’s no implication for New Testament believers.

The parable of the tax collector (Luke 18:9–14). This is a secondary reference, again associated with legalism, where the prideful Pharisee compares himself to the ‘sinful’ tax collector and thanks God that he’s so faithful in tithing.

Jesus makes no case for tithing as part of the new covenant. He does however remind us that we cannot serve both money and God and where our treasure is, our heart will follow.

Neither statements serve as an endorsement for tithing but do point towards a deeper principle around giving.

Tithing in the rest of the New Testament

Outside of Jesus, the references get even fewer. There is literally one other reference to tithing in the New Testament and that’s simply a reference back to Abraham and Melchizedek. This isn’t an instruction or commandment but context for a wider point the author of Hebrews is making. When you think about how easy it would have been for Paul, Peter or any of the other apostles to mention the importance of tithing, the absence of such instruction is notable. This makes for a total of three references in the entire New Testament.

There is one place we would expect to find the instruction to tithe and that is in Acts 15. There is a huge debate around whether Gentiles turning to God should have to follow the Law (in particular whether circumcision is required). The church in Jerusalem write a letter to Antioch to clarify and note the following instructions:

  • Abstain from food sacrificed to idols
  • Don’t eat blood
  • Don’t eat strangled animals
  • Avoid sexual immorality

Acts 15:28-29

“For it has seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us to lay on you no greater burden than these requirements: that you abstain from what has been sacrificed to idols, and from blood, and from what has been strangled, and from sexual immorality. If you keep yourselves from these, you will do well. Farewell.”

Again the absence of tithing as part of instruction towards New Testament Gentile believers speaks loudly. If it’s such an important issue of the heart, why doesn’t the scripture mention it? The most obvious reason is because it’s not mandated.

Malachi and the windows of heaven

It would not be a proper study on tithing without referencing the famous words of Malachi 3. Let’s break down what’s happening here as well as some equally famous misinterpretation of scripture.

Malachi 3:10 (ESV):

“Bring the full tithe into the storehouse, that there may be food in my house. And thereby put me to the test, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open the windows of heaven for you and pour down for you a blessing until there is no more need.”

Firstly of course, this is an Old Testament context. This is actually a prophetic word to the priests (not just the people). They are being criticised for taking advantage of the temple system and treating God with indifference. If we were to take one message from this whole book into the modern era, it should be that church leaders should be incredibly diligent around handling finances that have been given to God.

Secondly we see an interesting but obvious principle. When the people give to the temple, the priests are able to eat. This means that the whole system functions properly. But the people have stopped giving properly because of the malpractice and misteaching of the priests. Fix the church leadership, and the giving will flow again.

Thirdly the reference to the windows of heaven. The windows of heaven are not some sort of cosmic situation where money falls from the sky into your lap if you give 10% to your local church. The windows of heaven refer to rainclouds. In other words, when the people tithe, God will cause rain to come and bless their crops. This is important because if you don’t plant any crops then the rain is essentially useless to you. We see the value of hard work alongside the wider principle of putting God first. Yes in this context it looks like tithing. But given the rest of our exposition of scripture, it’s clear it doesn’t extrapolate exactly into our new covenant relationship.

Fourthly the reference to robbing God. This is clearly in reference to the people’s disobedience to the Law. If tithing is a universal command that predates the Law and continues into the New Covenant then Abraham was under a curse by only tithing once. And Jacob was under a curse by making his tithe conditional on God’s provision. Not to mention the myriad of others who we have no evidence for their tithing.

To read tithing into the lives of all of the patriarchs (think Enoch, Noah and so on), is to add it into the text. These people didn’t tithe but conversely we often see reference to building altars to God. The specifics matter when you’re building a theological case for what people should do.

Conclusion

Let’s take a little recap from what we’ve learnt so far:

Prior to the law

  • There is no mandate to tithe.
  • There is no evidence for tithing as described in the Law.
  • All tithing & giving is spontaneous & celebrated but never commanded.

The Law

  • Tithing is mandated.
  • There are three different types of tithe.
  • Only applicable to Jews

In the New Covenant

  • Jesus makes no case for tithing.
  • Paul & apostles never mention tithing.
  • The one place we might expect to find tithing mentioned to the Gentiles, it isn’t (Acts 15)

Given the ground we’ve covered scripturally, I don’t believe you can make an honest case for tithing as a commandment in the New Testament. That isn’t to say that everyone teaching the tithe is sinister (although some may be). But I think it’s clear that tithing belongs in the realm of tradition and is not a commandment from God.

Tradition is notoriously hard for us to challenge and requires great courage (learn more about developing confidence in this podcast episode) because we have well respected examples of those who went before us (and who may still be alive) who held fast to particular traditions. To challenge tradition often feels like disrespect or dishonour and so we hold fast to it instead of being faithful to the text.

It’s good to honour our leaders. But not if it stops us from honouring God’s word.

Put God first

Let’s consider this topic from another angle. Is giving 10% of your income to your local church a bad thing? Definitely not but let’s examine why and in doing so we’ll uncover the true principle around giving that threads through the entirety of scripture.

Money is a type of power and all power has the ability to corrupt. Whether it be authority, influence, wealth or education – everything good can be used to do bad. In fact this is probably the truest definition of sin. Sin is always a distortion of something good.

The Bible does celebrate wealth and the enjoyment of life. I shared one of my favourite scriptures earlier in 1 Timothy 6 where we are encouraged to not set our hopes on the uncertainty of riches but on God who richly provides us with everything to enjoy. Getting over the awkwardness of money to acknowledge that it’s a tremendous benefit is important to say.

To put it in layman’s terms, if I asked you if you wanted to be rich or poor, which one would you choose? Many of us would be uncomfortable saying rich but if you said poor, we’d know you were fibbing.

The flip side is that the Bible also warns against setting your hope in money itself. Financial power is a useful tool but is a dangerous master.

Jesus explains it well in Matthew 6:24

24 “No one can serve two masters, for either he will hate the one and love the other, or he will be devoted to the one and despise the other. You cannot serve God and money.

If God is to be number one, we must dethrone money. And the way we do that is by taking our money and making it serve God. The principle we see in the tithe in the Law is the same we see before the Law as Abel gives the first of what he has to God.

In that way tithing taps into a deeper principle of putting God first. We take the first of what we have and give it to God every time we earn money. This keeps money from becoming an idol and keeps our heart healthy.

I believe there is a solid case for this giving to God to go into the local church, just as the temple giving went to the priests. God designs this all to work both spiritually (for our heart) and practically (for our church).

So how much should we be giving? We should be honest and acknowledge that the New Testament simply does not say. I think it’s because we’re moving out of low level legalism into the spirit of generosity. Giving is now about your capacity.

For some of us, we have a huge capacity to give and 10% is more like us throwing some loose change at the feet of a homeless God. True honouring of God will be giving upwards of 30%, 40% etc.

For others the idea of giving 10% feels absolutely impossible. I would encourage you to consider where you can start instead. Is that 5%? Is that 2%? Just start and activate the principle of putting God first.

The New Testament does talk about giving and generosity – it encourages it but it never specifies an amount.

Perhaps we can end by sharing a story of Jesus commenting on someone’s giving.

Mark 12:41–44 (ESV):

“And he sat down opposite the treasury and watched the people putting money into the offering box. Many rich people put in large sums. And a poor widow came and put in two small copper coins, which make a penny. And he called his disciples to him and said to them, ‘Truly, I say to you, this poor widow has put in more than all those who are contributing to the offering box. For they all contributed out of their abundance, but she out of her poverty has put in everything she had, all she had to live on.'”

I think this taps into the true heart of what God is looking for. Not legalism or tickbox Christianity but a heart that overflows with love and gratitude for all that God has done for us.

10% doesn’t feel quite enough. He’s looking for 100%.

Matthew 22:37–38 (ESV):

“And he said to him, ‘You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind. This is the great and first commandment.'”

If you found this helpful you might also like the below. I shared some of these insights in a recent podcast episode: Things Your Pastor Never Told You About Tithing.


The year of limitation

Ah that happy new year feeling. 2025 is here and I’m all for it. I may have dropped a few dad jokes to my kids on the morning of the 1st January about how it feels like a year since I last saw them.

A new year represents a new start and with it often comes new words and fresh vision. Across the internet right now, people are posting their goals and plans. I appreciate the enthusiasm and do feel reasonably swept up in it too. It is exciting to dream again and wonder about the endless possibilities that the year can bring.

But… have you noticed that no one ever gets a negative word for the year?

2025, the year of pestilence, loss and heartbreak.

Doesn’t quite have the ring to it.

Sign me up instead for abundance, riches and possibility.

I am not sure I’ve ever been one of those people who has a word for the year. For me, every day feels like a new start and the new year is merely an added layer to that constant process of getting vision for the next season.

So imagine my surprise when a word did drop into my heart (whilst posting some holiday snaps on the old Insta stories).

It was the word LIMITATION.

Not really the sort of word anyone signs up for.

But interestingly enough, I have spent the last few years growing in my understanding of my own limits. Thus I know that limitation is not as frustrating as it sounds.

  • Limitation means boundaries.
  • Limitation means focus.
  • Limitation means obedience.
  • Limitation means trusting God.

I think the biggest mistake we could make with 2025 is to take back control. Often we start with great energy (too much of it) and try to start with overexertion.

If we start the new year strong then we’ll have momentum, we think to ourselves.

But this so-called momentum is often just code for self-sufficiency and striving.

Here are a few ways limitation can serve us.

1. Limitation forces us to be led

That classic Psalm 23 vibe asserts that the Lord is my shepherd and that there is no lack because of it. Oftentimes we are moving too quickly to be led by the Holy Spirit. We assume every opportunity should be taken and every door should be opened.

There is such a thing as too much of a good thing. In fact most sin can be described as some sort of distortion of goodness.

  • Marriage is good but best keep it only to one.
  • Mince pies are good but don’t go wild on the cream (just throwing in some confession here).
  • Alcohol is good but has some obvious downsides in excess.
  • Leadership is good until it moves into control and manipulation.
  • Work is good until we give too much of ourselves to it.
  • Money is good until we trust in it.

The list goes on.

We can be so enamoured with goodness that we assume that it is always God’s will for us to take every opportunity.

To be led is to pay attention to the Holy Spirit. Which doors should we be entering into in 2025? Which doors should we leave closed?

Living this way actually takes us out of striving and into a place of trust. Which in turn creates a tremendous sense of peace and rest internally. But it does require the courage.

I recorded a recent podcast episode all about our need to say no – you can listen to it here.

I don’t want to go beyond the limitations of obedience this year. I want to be led by the Holy Spirit.

2. Limitation prevents injury

Exactly two years ago, I started getting serious about my physical fitness. Since then pretty much every weekday (5x per week) I’ve been working out and developing a better relationship with my body.

There have been so many lessons from the last 24 months and I’m thoroughly enjoying the process. One of these learnings has been around understanding the tricky tension between pushing yourself in the gym and the need for rest.

It turns out this is far more complicated than I realised. When we lift weights beyond what we are used to, we end up tearing our muscle fibres. It’s in the recovery process that the muscles actually grow back (hopefully) a bit bigger.

But there are so many factors to consider here. If you’re not sleeping well then the body won’t be able to fully recover. And if you’re stressed then your sleep is disrupted and you’re not in the correct nervous system state for recovery.

On top of that if you’re not getting the right nutrition (e.g. protein) then your body will struggle to repair.

So if we’re stressed out and not looking after ourselves, we can push as hard as we want in the gym but the results will be minimal. Actually it’s more likely that we’ll go backwards.

It’s taken me a while to figure out how hard to push myself whilst also factoring in everything else happening in my life too.

Many of us as we start the new year are planning all sorts of grand things like starting a business, memorising the entire New Testament in Greek, becoming a calisthenics pro and more. Might I suggest that you slow the heck down. Trying to fit too much in is a sure way to injure yourself.

Whether that’s through burnout down the line, not having space for play and life-giving relationships or simply getting ill more often. If you embrace limitation, ironically you’ll actually become more productive.

I have known (and still know) plenty of high-achieving people who work like crazy. I do feel called to these types of people because honestly by default I’m wired the same way. But to live at this level of intensity, you end up looking to other things to cope. Substances, porn, you name it. Frequently crashing with exhaustion is a badge of honour when achievement is an idol.

Injury isn’t fun. Especially when there’s no one to blame but yourself. There’s another way and called limitation.

Limitation takes courage. It’ll require some difficult conversations with those who have been accustomed and appreciative of your overwork. Sadly this happens in the church perhaps as much as it does in the world. If you’re interested in understanding how honour culture plays a part in encouraging overwork – you should read this.

3. Limitation increases joy

With such easy access to entertainment (who’s enjoying Skeleton Crew??), we are deeply uncomfortable with boredom. It only takes me a few seconds of sitting still to whip open my phone and cycle through my classic apps.

Instagram, BBC news, WhatsApp etc

(Side note: I’ve got some thoughts about what the future of social media will begin to look like if you’re interested. Listen here.)

I’ve also experienced so much joy through learning to be more still. Practising mindfulness, breathwork and becoming aware of my emotions has honestly become so life-giving. I don’t see these things as opposing to prayer and my relationship with Jesus but deepening it. As I journey inwards to dig around my soul, I invite the Holy Spirit in too. I can only share with God what I am aware of. I search my own heart so I can come in humility to him.

Doing less is the recipe to deeper thinking and serendipity. For creatives, that spark of inspiration is worth everything. It nearly always comes when you least expect it in the ordinary moments that you’d otherwise skip.

One of the big social losses of the pandemic was the commute. We stopped having to endure the useless tube adverts and endless escalators. We lost that additional margin of thinking time.

I’ve started to lean into boring tasks. Cleaning the house. Preparing meals. Tidying the desk. Sweeping the floor. Walking to the shop.

Please don’t think I’m pretending to be this super guru who walks through the day in a constant state of zen. But I have started to appreciate life in all of its simplicity and intricacy more and more.

Some of us seek to lose this ordinary aspect of life. We want to be on a beach in Bali or some other exotic location. We want to make our millions so we can sell up and escape the everyday grind.

But perhaps in doing so we will discover what many of us have known all along. Life is designed with limits. God-given limits. You can’t escape them so don’t become miserable trying.

Challenging our metrics for success is an important part of learning to embrace our limits.

The last podcast episode of 2024 was dedicated to this topic – listen here.

Some quick reflection questions for you.

What is God saying yes to in 2025?
What is God saying no to in 2025?
How comfortable and aware of your physical, mental and spiritual limits are you?

And…

What’s driving you? Really?

Here’s to embracing limitation in 2025.


31: Challenging The Metrics of Success


As we come towards the end of 2024, I've been taking stock of the success and failures of the year. One thing that's so important is that we look to the right metrics. Worldly metrics include all sorts of things that can be unhelpful but God is actually just looking for faithfulness and obedience.

I think you'll find this final episode of the year helpful in turning down the pressure and bringing you back to a place of peace.

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The problem with honour culture

Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.

Romans 12:10

Honour is a beautiful and wonderful thing. We’re encouraged by scripture to follow the example of Jesus who loved and served those around him.

A key facet of Jesus’ teaching around honour was to make sure that our honour was impartial. In other words, we honour people because they are made in the image of God. Not because they have position or power or wealth that could somehow benefit us. This is especially shown by how we treat those who are perceived as least or less.

It’s strange to me that despite the many warnings of Jesus around this type of partiality and preference, it seems to me that a hyper and often uneven honouring culture is not only rife amongst the church today but also encouraged and taught as healthy leadership.

What we honour shows what we value. And what we value is what we will prefer and focus on. As a pastor, I believe that an unhealthy emphasis on the importance of pastors and leaders will actually cause the wider church to be ineffective. We end up devaluing the role of the ordinary Christian and indirectly (and sometimes directly) encouraging people into the role of the leader as the highest possible goal.

Perhaps if we address this imbalance, we might see churches that release more creativity, excel and influence in the work place, build strong families and much much more. I believe that everything we want for the church will actually come about when we fix the focus of our honour to be firstly on Jesus and then on the least of us.

Here are some ways honour culture can show up in an unhealthy way.

1. Discipleship pathways that seek to make everyone a leader in the church.

Being a disciple is about being a disciple of Jesus. Whilst we benefit greatly from good teaching and great examples of church leaders, our ultimate goal is to be formed into the likeness of Christ, not in the likeness of our leaders.

If everyone becomes a church leader then obviously society will not work very well. If the church gets all of our energy then our families and our workplaces will suffer. We need people to show up fully present in their workplace with a vision for what they do. When our very design for discipleship is around activation into church teams and taking responsibility in the life of the church, the end result is often that there is little energy left for the other aspects of a person’s life.

In simple terms, we give everything on Sundays and we don’t show up quite as awesomely on Monday morning or Thursday afternoon. I lived this life for many years and saw the fruit of it in myself and others. This is what happens. People get tired. They neglect non-church areas of their life. Sadly some even burn out too, trying to manage it all. Others feel the pressure and don’t feel able to say they’re struggling and eventually leave without notice.

Strangely enough, this over-focus on the church is actually very insular. We may grow the church numerically (these models work for a reason) but we stunt its power and presence in the world.

It’s well worth considering the metrics we use to ultimately measure success. I recorded a podcast episode about this here.

2. An over celebration of up-front ministry gifts

Being a preacher is something of prestige in today’s culture. It’s celebrated. It’s envied. It’s even coveted. When people come up to you and call you ‘pastor’, it does something to you. It makes you feel special. Personally I have a distaste for it and encourage people to use my first name instead.

This puts an unhealthy desire in many to be on the platform. We’re only human and we are all looking for validation. But it also puts an unhealthy slant on how church leaders see themselves. You begin to believe that you are more important.

And of course pastors are important. But so are single parents. So are baristas. So are sanitation workers. So are accountants.

Often we say one thing but our actions say another. We applaud when we welcome a preacher or some form of visible ministry. We almost never applaud ministry that no one hears about.

Because of course… no one hears about it. But it’s just as important.

  • If we serve preachers better than we serve parents, we’re doing something wrong.
  • If we respect pastors more than we respect baristas, we’re doing something wrong.

The list goes on.

It’s fascinating that the phrase ‘full-time ministry’ immediately offers a picture of a pastor, not a lawyer or a data analyst. Side note: If you’re a Christian creative looking for coaching and support for your business or dream then do check out The Garden. It’s free forever.

Serving is not really about the camera operator or the kids worker on a Sunday (although it can be!) It’s about the person who is gracious to their grumpy colleague. It’s the parent who persuades their kid that school is a valuable use of their time. It’s the friend who is available to help you move house.

All of this overemphasis harms the church because Christians are being conditioned to think that what they do throughout the week is not particularly significant or valuable. But it is. Is there any wonder that the place of the church in society is slipping? Our energy is going into the wrong things.

When we celebrate and honour the things that are being ignored, we’ll help the church become what it needs to be in society.

3. Closed minded structures that are resistant to change

The Pharisees were frequently criticised and challenged by Jesus. They were resistant to change and saw his teaching as unlawful when in actual fact it was getting back to the real essence of the law.

The problem with honour culture is that it continues to perpetuate itself. When pastors see themselves as having divine or ultimate authority, any challenge is seen as an attack on the church, God himself or divisiveness.

No one liked the prophets because they frequently said what the establishment did not like to hear. This was absolutely true in the case of Jesus.

The fruit of honour culture has been well-documented in recent years in the evangelical/pentecostal side of things. We’ve also seen it in the Church of England too with the historic abuse at the hands of John Smyth. Hyper honour leads to unhealthy cultures that are more likely to facilitate and cover up spiritual abuse. Pastors are humans too. Just because we are gifted and called by God does not mean we shouldn’t be held accountable to the power we hold.

I recently recorded a podcast episode on church hurt which I believe might be healing for many who have sadly experienced some level of abuse in the church.

Most pastors I know are good and faithful servants of God. We would never dream of using power to take advantage of people. But we can still be a part of wider cultures that are unhealthy. We can be tempted by examples around us that may teach and encourage us to lean into this sort of honour culture.

I encourage us all to work against it, challenge it and build the exact opposite for 2025. A culture that truly reflects the words of Jesus below in Matthew 20:25-28:

But Jesus called them to him and said, “You know that the rulers of the Gentiles lord it over them, and their great ones exercise authority over them. It shall not be so among you. But whoever would be great among you must be your servant, and whoever would be first among you must be your slave, even as the Son of Man came not to be served but to serve, and to give his life as a ransom for many.”


30: Stop Giving Away Your Energy


The key to fulfilling the purpose God has given you is developing the capacity to say no to the things you're not supposed to do.

Life is full of demands and relationships that demand something from us. This is not intrinsically bad and we don't want to lose a sense of generous or care for others. But we do need to protect ourselves (hello self-control) through healthy boundaries.

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29: What's Really Stopping Your Business Growing


Fear plays a much bigger role in our decisions than we realise. Growing in self-awareness (and ultimately self-control) will allow us to do the things we truly want, even if we feel uncomfortable doing them.

When it comes to business, we may avoid doing certain tasks or putting ourselves out there because of fear but then we rationalise it intellectually afterwards to explain why we aren't where we want to be.

Breaking the cycle can add huge growth to your business - if you do the work, it will succeed!

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28: The Power of Saying No


When we say yes to everything, we inevitably end up saying no to the things that matter most. This is crazy when we consider that the truest definition of success is faithfulness. If we don't steward our time and energy to ultimately say yes to God and the things he wants us to do, then we'll miss out on fulfilling our call.

In this episode, we talk about some practical ways to set boundaries, deal with the awkwardness of saying no and truly honour our commitments without building resentment or frustration with being taking advantage of.

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27: How to Exude Confidence


Confidence is not only attractive, it's essential for any creative building a business. Clients can sense your energy and a healthy appreciation of who you are and what you do is going to set you up for success. In this episode, we talk about what the Bible says about confidence and how to find it.

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26: The Future of Social Media


I believe there is a shift happening. There is a real hunger for genuine connection and authentic interactions online (and in life and in general). In this episode, I share some reflections from a recent event I attended as well as my own learnings on how to make social media a life-giving tool instead of a mood hoover.

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25: I Made Every Sales Mistake So You Don't Have To


Over the last few years, I've made pretty much every mistake you can make in sales. This was (partially) deliberate. I was being intentional about learning and growing my ability to sell. I've discovered that you can sell things (like your creative work) and you don't have to be manipulative or pushy to do it.

There's a way to sell that feels good and everybody wins. If you're going to build a business then of course you need to make sales. 

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